if you believe what people say about you, you will end up hating yourself.
“Loser. weird. bad muslim.” And the list literally goes on, and on.
as long as Allah loves you…who cares what people say about you?
people are often…cruel, jealous, unnecessarily judgmental…and silly (I would have said “stupid,” but that would have been mean)..
No, seriously-many people are not good people. That’s the reality. ((For example, they would rather try and put someone else down (to boost their own egos) than swallow their pride/control their jealousy.))
The best advice I would give a person, in this regard, is to concern yourself with yourself…don’t bother yourself with people like this.
and Remember that Allah s.w.t. dislikes people who abuse their fellow brothers and sisters (whether verbally, emotionally, or psychologically). (That should give you peace..)
side note: I think we, as Muslims, often neglect the fact that emotional and psychological abuse is a hated act, by Allah, s.w.t. It is no better than physical abuse…Abuse is abuse. Hateful insinuations (in speech), cruel behavior (like purposely being condescending or intentionally ignoring your brother/sister who has done no wrong, to you) is a big* no-no…it is an evil…and an awful sin.
but, hey, people were created with free choice, after all-many will choose to go the path of cruelty and hatefulness.
All you can do is…do you (as they say)–concern yourself with your own relationship with Allah, s.w.t., leave such people, alone, make sure you are not like that, etc.
(*of course, you can also get involved with such people by making du’a for them, *perhaps* talking to them to get them to change, and such. (but also, don’t expect a mu’jiza (miracle) to happen–Allah s.w.t. says in the Qur’an that some people are so far gone that there is only so much that anyone else can do: “In their hearts is a disease (that they have chosen to have) so (as a penalty) Allah has increased the disease, and theirs is a painful torment for what they used to do,” and “Their hearts are like rocks–nay–harder in hardness, for among rocks are those that…crumble from fear of Allah..” and “As to those who reject Faith, it is the same to them whether thou warn them or do not warn them; they will not believe.*”
This is the ultimate truth, walahi. (It took me a long time to learn this). may Allah protect all of us (from such evil).
*verses from Noble Qur’an, 2nd chapter (the Heifer).
On a happier note: We are in the last 10 days of blessed Ramadan! I’m sad to see it go, but walahi I’m glad I got to live through it (another one). And I have learned some extremely important lessons, in it, like: prayer is of utmost importance…Allah s.w.t. would not have prescribed the prayer on us Muslims if it was impossible to do.
*prayer is a big test of a person’s imaan and character, of course, though. But it will* take us all to Jannah (insha Allah). May Allah accept all of our efforts.
wa akhir da’wana anna Alhamdulillahi rabil ‘aalameen..(and my final thoughts are “praise be to Allah, Lord of all the worlds). 🌈🌄✨